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Mentor4Men Testimonials
"Wayne wears many hats during our conversations—friend, father, confessor and butt-kicker. Like most people, I have needed a little of each during this journey which of course continues. His ability to stay on task (despite my best efforts, sometimes) and his willingness to risk the relationship to tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you want to hear, set this process apart. I am anxious and excited to see what kind of man I can become with help from Wayne and the other men." -Matt |
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 "I found the need for men in my life when my marriage was falling apart. I had isolated myself from men. I had surrounded myself with women, confided only with women. It became clear to me that this was not working. Working with Wayne has awaken a voice that had long been asleep and silent inside of me. That voice was my own voice, my voice as a man, the man I strive to be. I have learned to listen and to trust this voice. I am learning to feel as a man feels. This process has become an integral part of me. It touches and sets a real standard for all of my relationships with men, with women, and with my sons. It guides me at work and in my personal life. Having Wayne’s support in my life has been invaluable." -Joe |
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| "Wayne offered me a terrific alternative to traditional therapy and groups. His philosophy encourages taking responsibility for your life, for your actions, for your choices. He provides tools and skills that help with the tough choices in life. BUT, most of all, he celebrates being a man and knowing how to live life as a GOOD man. That might mean being tough; that might mean being soft. Being a man encompasses it all. Wayne guides you to realize your potential without resorting to stereotypical Dr. Phil platitudes. It's straight...it's direct...it works." -Bruce |
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| "The BetterMen process has been an eye-popping experience for me. When I first started working with Wayne, he explained to me how I was playing one of the best victims he had ever met. After I sat with that for a while, I realized (with Wayne's coaching) that I can make significant changes in my life, and almost all of them were right in my head. Everyday I ask my self, “Am I being the best man I can be?” And then I act accordingly! Wayne’s mentoring has given me the balance and confidence to move forward with my relationship and my life." -Ken |
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"I have been working with Wayne for about 18 months now and it has been invaluable. I left the comfort of a job at a large corporation to pursue an entrepreneurial dream a year ago and it has been an emotional rollercoaster. I have a wife, two young children, and a mortgage without a reliable paycheck. Some days I have total confidence in my vision and other days I am plagued with self-doubt.
Wayne has been a consistent and comforting voice during these challenging times. Whether I am riding a way of optimism and ready to conquer the world or depressed and wanting to stay in bed all day, Wayne is there to offer his unique perspective and bring me back to center. Our conversations are not about business but about life. We talk about becoming a better husband, father, and man in general. I highly recommend working with Wayne to anyone that is looking to grow as a person and improve the quality of the relationships in their life whether they be personal or business." -Mike |
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| "I sought out Wayne Levine after being moved to action by his inspiring book Hold On to Your N.U.T.S. The Mentor4Men process with its BetterMen tools have helped me to continue my growth with clarity and strength to be more fulfilled as the man, husband, father and son I want to be. With Wayne's mentoring, I am moving forward with more powerful commitments to and understanding of my relationships with those I hold most dear." -Will |
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"I read Wayne's book and really liked what he had to say; the concepts were simple and made a lot of sense. But I determined additional help would get me where I wanted to be more quickly, so I decided to try working with Wayne directly. Wayne has a relaxed approach that is definitely not "one size fits all." He listens and guides you to the discoveries you need to make to become a better man. He quickly helped me see how the things that were going wrong in my life were really things I could put under my control.
It was also very reassuring to discover that, much to my surprise, other men were facing the same issues I was facing—I wasn't the only guy going through this stuff. Wayne helped me find the insight and tools to see myself and take responsibility to adjust my behavior to better my life. He showed me how to be aware of and take control of the choices I make and, after many years of struggling (before working with Wayne,) I am finally becoming the man I want to be." -Art |
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| "Working with Wayne is incredibly rewarding for men because he’s a true coach, not someone simply dispensing advice. Making positive changes in your life or your relationships requires action, not coddling or therapist-speak. What Wayne does is listen, then challenge you to act in a way that will solve your problem or answer your question. He then follows up, holding you accountable for yourself and the commitment you’ve made. Ultimately Wayne helps you get yourself to a place that’s better than where you were before, and he does it through firm, goal-oriented coaching. It’s exactly what men need." -Alex |
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"Being 49 years old and a success by any measure, I remember telling Wayne that I'm successful because I suck it up and get it done. Because I know what to do and I do what I know. But why didn't I feel like a success? For some reason beyond my comprehension, doing what I know was not working anymore and I was sinking emotionally. With Wayne's genuine support and facilitation, I now see how I was getting in my own way by repeating behaviors that did not work anymore.
Wayne asked me questions that challenged my sense of rightness and offered a different perspective that helped me dig out of an emotional hole. Now when another man confides in me when asking, "When does "it" get easier?" I tell him he needs to call Wayne. I did and I'm a better man for doing so. Thanks Wayne for your guidance and support." -Marc |
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| "When I started working with Wayne, my marriage had recently ended and I didn't understand why. We both knew we were in love, but it seemed the harder I tried the worst things got and the more miserable I became. By working with Wayne, I have learned to be the man I want to be in my relationships—personal and business. I am able to be loving and supportive without compromising what is important to me. It has changed my life! I am a happier man, a better father, and a better mate." -Rod |
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| "I've learned to ask for help instead of toughing everything out by myself. I've learned how to make friends with other men with whom I can have fun, rely on, and trust to be honest with me. I've even learned how to keep from self-destructing in my marriage when I get frustrated with my wife! The BetterMen process works!" -Jeff |
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| "Working with Wayne has lifted the fog. I can see myself and my relationships more clearly, and deal with them in a more realistic way from a position of strength and self-confidence. I am finally learning to be in control of my own life, and am happier than I have been a long, long time." -Mark |
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| "When I started living by my terms, my life and my relationship slowly began to change. Thanks to this concept, which I perfected while working with Wayne, I found it easier and more fulfilling to work with my wife and was able to regain control of my life and improve all of my relationships." -Dave |
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| "This coaching is what changed me from a man lost to himself to one with a greater understanding of who he is and where he came from. The results are I am a better man and a better father. It was not easy and a lot of work. But the changes in how I view myself and, more importantly, how I relate to my sons, are well worth the struggle." -Lee |
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| "I have worked with Wayne for over three years. His insight and counsel have been a tremendous help in bettering my relationships with my wife, children and my father." -Greg |
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| "I have been working with Wayne as my mentor for about a year and the work we've been doing has had a profound effect on every part of my life. The idea of mentoring is a simple one; he helps me be the best man I can be on my own terms. Wayne took the time to carefully understand my strengths and weaknesses. His insights into what I need—and what men need—have been essential to my success. With the help of his coaching, my relationships are stronger, my career is growing leaps and bounds, and I'm much more prepared for the road ahead." -Stephen |
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"Any man who has the joy of truly experiencing a "mid-life crisis" will identify with my journey. After making a series of bad personal life choices, I found myself in crisis. My marriage was in jeopardy, my family life was chaos, my work life was completely out of balance, and I personally had no idea what was important to me.
After a series of frustrating counseling sessions (both individual and couples), I went to a local bookstore in hopes of finding comfort. Wayne's book literally jumped off the shelf at me. As I picked it up off the floor and read the inside cover, I remember the feeling of connection. After reading the book and working with Wayne over the phone, I decided to join the men's weekend and I traveled across the country to California for the event. I really had no idea why I was even going on the journey. I only knew that something felt right about it.
At the opening circle of the event, it all became crystal clear to me why I was there and what I needed to do. In joining with 37 other men, whom I had never met, we shared our challenges, faced our fears, learned from our mistakes and celebrated our victories. I had no idea how powerful and supportive this process would be. Further, I had no idea how much it would impact my life. As I continue my journey through life, I do so with an openness and honesty that I have never experienced before. It starts with knowing what is important to me, and I mean truly important. Then it is critical to make commitments in life, ones that are unalterable and non-negotiable, those true "N.U.T.s" which Wayne talks about in his book.
After that, it is about having a team of trusted men who hold you accountable to your commitments. It all seems so simple and so obvious, but actions are much harder than words. Wayne's words inspired me to action and I am making and holding my personal commitments like never before. As I turn the corner and head into the second half of my life, I do so with a personal confidence and calmness I never had before. I have new tools, new ideas and new friends to help me enjoy the ride.
My problems are easier to resolve, my priorities are clear, and my actions have meaning and purpose. If you have it in you to make a change, to turn your life around, to grab a hold of your life and make it yours, be in contact with Wayne and The Men. It all starts with you, and asserting your will for change. Wayne and the BetterMen process will provide you with great tools and ideas, while also making the journey enjoyable. Ho to The Men!" -Bob |
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"As a man who was raised in a family of twelve children, four who were my older sisters and parents who had their hands full just trying to make ends meet. I found myself surrounded by women who tried to teach me how to behave. Unfortunately as a guy surrounded by women who could not show me how to be a man and not having enough face time with my father who was so consumed by the challenge of running a business and holding down additional jobs to pay the endless bills, I was left to my own devises to figure out what it is to be a man.
I read Wayne’s book and spoke with him on the phone. I told him I was interested in his mentoring me and also wanted to attend the BetterMen but I was unemployed at the time. So I said I would have to speak with my wife of 32 years, and when I got a new job I would see if I could get the OK from her. His response to me changed my life and my relationship with my wife forever. He said, "Of course you need to get the job but when you speak with your wife I want you to tell her what you want to do and ask her for support, not for her permission. A woman wants to be her man’s partner, not his mother."
I asked her for support, got the job, started my mentoring work with Wayne, started a group of men in my area and also set up a weekly conference call with my brothers, and will be attending the next BetterMen. I have never felt more like a man than today. My special thanks go out to Wayne and to all the men who have participated in the development of this important work. I will forever be in their debt." -Marty |
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